“Have you ever considered adoption?”

"Have you ever considered adoption?"

  

Adoption?  What is that?!

 

No, in all seriousness, yes.  We have considered adoption.

 

We have also considered natural conception,

Clomid,

Femara,

timed-intercourse/medicated cycles,

IUI,

IVF,

natural-cycle IVF, and

mini-IVF (is there a difference in these last two?).

 

We have eaten a clean diet,

tried the PCOS diet, and

juiced.

 

We did acupuncture,

massages, and

yoga.

 

We have taken Metformin,

Pregnitude,

fish oil,

Co-Q10,

pre-natal vitamins, and

folic acid.  (In all reality, we have been swallowing over 20 pills a day since we started down this road.)

 

Would you like your first 28 shots in the thigh or

the stomach because the following 63 shots will be in your rear.

 

Or if you’re lucky and your doctor doesn’t make you take the Progesterone shots in the rear, do you want

patches or

suppositories?

 

Speaking of, do you want Estrogen as a shot,

cream, or

patch?

 

Do you want ICSI/IMSI/PICSI or

petri-dish fertilization?

 

One embryo,

two embryos, or

three embryos at transfer?

 

We have looked into egg donors,

sperm donors, and

embryo donations.

 

Did you know you can get eggs and/or sperm from a known donor or

unknown donor?

 

Let’s not even mention the eye color, hair color, race, religion, intelligence level, sexual orientation, or 183 other options on those sperm and egg donors that you have to make.

 

Genetic testing or

luck of the draw?

 

Do you want updates via phone or

email?

 

(Don’t even get me going on what happens if you miscarry.  You can have your miscarriage in the form of natural,

chemical D&C, or

surgical D&C.)

 

We have researched fostering,

adopting, and

foster-to-adopt.

 

We realize you can adopt domestically or

internationally.

 

You can get an Indian baby (because we are) or

a non-Indian baby (because we don’t look like we are).

 

There are the open adoption or

closed adoption decisions.

 

In many of these cases, do you want a boy or

a girl?

 

Are you set on a baby, or

would you like an older child?

 

By the way, don’t forget you need to pay for this.  Will you borrow,

fundraise,

finance, or

pay cash?

 

Whew, my brain hurts.

 

So, have we considered adoption?  Yes, amongst a few other things.  It’s just not that easy.  “Just relax,” though – we’ve got this under control.

 

Oh, and biology PSA coming to you – adoption isn’t what people do to get pregnant.

 

These are just some of the decisions that someone with this disease will face.  Some of us will have additional decisions; some of us will not have to face all of these decisions.  I can promise, though, that all of us have, at one time or another, considered adoption.

 

Anyone else ever notice that infertility can feel like a Chinese food buffet with all of the options laid out before you?…and many of them are unclear as to what they really are?!

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I am doing a link-up with Lisa at Amateur Nester for this blog entry.  Go check-out her blog if you’re in the mood to be encouraged.  If you don’t like being encouraged, well…I’m sorry.  J

http://www.amateurnester.com/2015/06/infertility-link-up-4.html