Monday, December 22, 2014

Boys?!

Yesterday, we were spending our Sunday afternoon in a pretty normal fashion.  Two of our kids were playing ping-pong in the garage while the other had holed up in her room behind an iPad screen that was playing her latest teeny-bopper TV show obsession.  Todd and I had turned our kitchen into gift-wrapping central.  He wraps gifts as well as and probably better than anyone else I know.  I make pretty cute bows to dress them up.  Two of Gary Morris’ Christmas albums were setting the mood for our afternoon of Christmas fun.  (If you haven’t heard Gary and his son, Matt, sing together, you’re missing out on a beautiful treat.)

I stopped for a quick restroom break, and while I was away from my given duties, I had the idea that it was time to find out the sex of the two babies we just lost.  I ran back into the kitchen to make sure my handsome stag was on board with the new idea.  After assuring him that I would not turn into a complete pile of mush for the remainder of the day, he agreed that he was ready to see the answers.

We turned on my phone, opened my email, and found the PGS (pre-implantation genetic screening) results from Tulsa Fertility Center.  (Remember, we performed genetic testing on our embryos, so we actually have the chromosomal make-up of all 7 embryos from this cycle, including their sex.)

It quickly jumped out at us that both of the chromosomally normal embryos (the two that we transferred) had an XY chromosome in the 23rd spot.  It then quickly dawned on us that we had no idea what that meant.  For some reason, all of our training had left both of our minds.  After a search on Dr. Google, we found out that meant they were both boys.  Boys!

For years, we had assumed we would have girls.  Most of the IVF babies (not all, but most) that we know personally are girls.  We hadn’t dreamt of having boys any further than coming up with a family name we would use for one.  But standing there in our kitchen, surrounded by gifts, wrapping paper, bows, and Gary Morris singing “What Child is This?,” my world was turned upside down once again.

For the first time in this entire process, I knew that we could have ourselves a little, baby boy.  In fact, our most successful cycle to date was with a son.  I was overwhelmed with emotions, but as promised, I did not turn to mush…

… until I received a text from my sister, Jenny, saying that she knew we would be reunited with these babies someday.  I like to believe that all of the babies we have made through IVF are in Heaven with our Father.  Now, we know that there are definitely some feisty boys up there pulling their sisters’ hair.  I hope we meet all of our babies, someday.

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As a side note, my acupuncture doctor told me on November 26 that he could tell from my pulse that I was pregnant with a boy.  Even more ironic, my uncle announced to my cousin (before any of them knew we were pregnant) that we were pregnant with two boys.  Like my cousin said, he’s never been known to be clairvoyant; I guess some dreams are more real than others.

Todd and I have a long history with Gary Morris and Matt Morris music.  Therefore, I’m going to leave two videos that I would recommend everyone watch:
·         Gary Morris singing “My Son”
·         Matt Morris & Justin Timberlake singing “Hallelujah”  (For the record, Matt Morris was on The Mickey Mouse Club with Justin Timberlake.  Now, you know.)

8 comments:

  1. Awe how nifty that you will have at least two boys waiting on you in heaven one day! I often like to think about that for myself when I think about my lil ducklings that were gone too soon. I think about how heaven is for eternity and that one day, I will be able to be with them and be their mommy forever and ever. I also believe that life begins at conception and so you sugars, I believe will have lots of babies to love and snuggle one sweet day. I know that it doesn't take the pain away from experiencing those lives here on earth, but I can't help but think of how awesome it will be to be a mother in heaven. No babies crying...just smiling and being so loveable. I love that image and thought. I hope you have a great Christmas. Love you lots! xo

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    1. Isn't it an awesome image to be able to picture all of your children with you in Heaven? I like to imagine that they will all be at different ages. However, most of them, in my imagination, are around the age of 3. Maybe that's because of our Sunday school class. ??? There will be so many of them...boys and girls. Todd and I will look like Santa with all of those children surrounding us. You and I will both be blessed mommies in Heaven, Elisha. I hope your Christmas is wonderful, too. Love you so much! *Hugs*

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  2. I think it's a sweet gift that you go to know the sex. I'm so glad you will be able to meet your babies some day. thinking of you friend!!!!!!!!

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    1. I agree that it is a very sweet gift. We now know that we have one little girl and two little boys in Heaven...amongst the slew of other children up there waiting for us. They better be playing nice. ;-) Thank you for your thoughts. Merry Christmas, dear friend!

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  3. Isn't it also ironic that all of those anchor shirts were blue anchors! You guys are in my prayers for wherever this journey takes you!!

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    1. Jennie, yes it is ironic. I'm glad I was able to snag one of those shirts, too. Thank you for your prayers so very much!

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  4. Thinking of you, Laura! I love how you think of your sweet boys. Merry Christmas.

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    1. Thank you, Jessah. It's comforting to imagine them. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas!

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